“Your emotional baggage consists of real energies from your past, that are altering your present. It’s time to set yourself free.”Dr. Bradley Nelson
If you’re anything like me, you didn’t start your business to then hear crickets. You wanted to manifest your dream business, including the clients/customers and the impact and success that comes with it.
As a healer and intuitive business coach, I often work with female entrepreneurs who have a tendency to “bypass” their very real emotions. All in the name of “new age dogma” and popular hashtags like #positivevibesonly. As such, they don’t realise that what actually lowers their co-creation and manifesting energy is the fact that they are repressing their emotions.
I always tell my clients that “e-motions” are energy in motion. As such, they need to be in motion versus repressed as that can have a detrimental effect on their emotional well-being and overall physical health. And how will you manifest your dream business from a place of repressed emotions?
The answer is simple: you will manifest that which you have been repressing.
If you repress anger, you will attract people who are either actively or passively angry. Not a cool thing when you wish to work with well-meaning clients for instance. 🙂
Every single emotion you repressed and haven’t dealt with has the capacity to lower your overall energetic frequency, thus causing abundance blocks in your business.
It’s safe to say that we all experienced a variety of strong emotions or even trauma in our lives. While some children may have grown up in emotionally “safe” homes and were encouraged to share their feelings and emotions, many others didn’t. Some of us might not have found a healthy outlet to share our feelings. Or even worse, were discouraged from sharing it altogether. As a result, the natural coping mechanism then is to store away these emotions or numb them down in any way possible.
The shocking revelation I had when I started my own healing journey, was to discover how much damage the holding in of emotions had done to my energetic system. Once I learned that every single emotion I ever suppressed was stored in my energetic system, I spent a lot of time clearing these layers of old stuck energy. I spent quite some time clearing the negative emotional imprint from my energetic system and my body.
We might not even be aware any longer of what exactly we have been suppressing all these years. And what’s more, at some point, it’s nearly impossible to navigate this healing by ourselves.
A lot of research has been done on emotions, down to even measuring the frequency of each one. From that research, we know that the “high frequency” emotions are bliss, love, peace, and joy. Whereas emotions like hate, guilt, and shame have a lower frequency.
Repressed emotions will stay stuck in your aura
Emotions have the ability to alter our entire energetic field: our aura. Our aura consists of many different layers, and the emotional layer will react to every single emotion we feel. When we constantly repress negative emotions, our aura will become less vibrant and less protective.
We need to allow ourselves to feel sadness, anger, or any of our emotions. It’s these emotions that will help us to change our life for the better. Without allowing anger to surface and show us what’s not working in our lives, we would probably never take the decision to break from an unhealthy relationship or toxic work environment.
We need to allow ourselves to feel all of our emotions, the good and the bad. The ideal scenario is as always: Balance. Balance in feeling “negative” emotions, being aware they exist, trying to get to their root cause, but also being willing to let go and to release them eventually when we have processed them.
Some people really do need outside help as well, such as a coach, a therapist, a healer, or at least someone very objective to help them process information. I always invested time and money into mentors who could help me process my emotions.
Oftentimes, our loved ones are not trained enough or emotionally mature enough to deal with our emotional and deep-seated pain. And even if they were, I’m sure they would feel grateful if they were not the sole people responsible for our emotional healing.
Are you absorbing other people’s emotions like a sponge?
“Empaths feel more deeply, more intensely, and more persistently than those around us. We even feel what other people are afraid to feel within themselves.”Mateo Sol, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing
When I was around 11 years old, I remember how I sat down on the staircase at home and cried. When my mum asked me why I was crying, I replied: « I don’t know, Mum! » All I knew was that there was a sadness.
Fast forward to 20 years later. I had moved to Thailand, had given up my corporate career, and had decided to take care of my well-being. Once there, I had a shocking revelation:
I was a sponge for people’s problems and emotional rollercoasters. The worst thing was: that it didn’t even matter whether they told me about it or not. As a child or young adult, I couldn’t differentiate what was mine and what wasn’t. When there was sadness in my house I cried, when someone felt angry, I felt angry too.
As an empath, I feel people’s emotional states all the time. There are so many people like me out there. Natural empaths, who are open to receiving people’s vibes all around them. Usually, it’s the people who are good listeners, the ones who always like to help.
When we don’t know how to handle it, we are sponges – we absorb people’s negative energy and their negative emotions. We do this subconsciously, as mostly we are unaware of what we are absorbing.
Empaths do this because deep down we are healers and we want to help people. However, more often than not we don’t know how to set strong boundaries. Or how to protect our own energy field so that we don’t “absorb” other people’s negative energy.
What happens when we are sponges?
Every negative emotion that is felt, is energy. Energy flows freely and can flow from one person to another one. Even when the other person is in another country and you are having a phone conversation.
This is especially the case with children and their parents who are still energetically linked via energetic cords. If parents repressed their negative emotions or generally dealt with their emotions in a “non-healthy” way, their kids will intuitively feel it too and most likely will struggle with the heaviness of these emotions and won’t understand what is theirs and what isn’t.
However, it’s not healthy for the listeners, the empaths, to be this way. We need to learn how to help people without taking on their burden and their heavy weight.
Repressed emotions and your health
Emotions are energy, and energy stays stuck when not dealt with it and will eventually attach itself to our physical organs. Traditional Chinese Medicine, which began over 7000 years ago, holds that certain emotions are attracted to specific organs. You find anger in the liver, fears in the bladder, and grief in the heart or lungs to name just a few.
There is only so much our body can take. Eventually, we will get physically sick. Our bodies will react if we don’t learn how to process our emotions in a healthy way. And it doesn’t matter whether we have our own unprocessed emotions, or whether we take on everyone else’s negative energy. It’s the same for our body and our health.
I once worked with a client who had severe arthritis. Through the work we did, I quickly became aware of what an open “sponge” she was. Even when she was severely ill and weak, she still took the time to listen to all her friends’ problems. I explained to her what was happening and the sponge concept. It really opened her eyes as to how much “baggage” from other people she was carrying.
Repressed emotions can cause physical symptoms like ulcers or affect your mental health
Another client had an ulcer and we found out it was due to a “lack of control” in her life. That repressed emotion had come during adolescence and as she hadn’t processed it back then, she kept re-creating situations in her life where she felt this lack of control again and again. Eventually, her body created an ulcer in her stomach, as she literally couldn’t “stomach” this felt lack of control anymore. That for her was a beautiful lesson of letting go of the need to have to control her life, work on her faith and be more present in the present moment, versus obsessing about her future. After our sessions, the pain from her ulcer was gone.
When we have too many repressed emotions in our energetic system, we are also prone to mental illnesses, such as depression, or we might explode easily and have bursts of anger surfacing frequently. It’s all a sign that there have been too many incidents we haven’t properly looked at yet and released from our bodies. Of course, there is much more to it when it comes to mental illness, such as ancestral influences, past lives etc, but unprocessed emotions rank very high.
How repressing your emotions won’t let you manifest your dream business
Let’s talk about business now and how to manifest your dream business by not allowing yourself to repress any emotions for too long.
If we have unprocessed emotions weakening our energetic system, and lowering our vibration, we will manifest things into existence that are lower in quality, too. Ie, if you dream of having a six-figure business, yet are operating from low-level energy, you won’t be able to hold energetic space for that manifestation to come in.
On top, we always attract what we reject within ourselves. We will keep attracting the same repressed emotions in others: our bosses or colleagues, our clients or employees. If one of our core trapped emotions is betrayal, for example, we will keep repeating that pattern in our business by attracting people who will mirror that back to us.
One of my clients found out she was holding on to a lot of “rejection” since childhood. She took it over into adulthood and into her business. She kept attracting partners and employees who would reject her ideas or her ways of working. Once she understood what the underlying cause was, she was able to release that rejection from her body. As a result, she started to get more respect at work.
Another client was holding on to creative insecurity since childhood. She explained that this didn’t surprise her. When growing up her parents never encouraged her to pursue any hobbies or to explore her creativity. Therefore, she felt very blocked creatively in her life and found it hard to start a project or to continue investing time and energy into it.
It’s very hard to manifest success in your business when you don’t have access to high-level creative energy and the determination to follow through with your projects.
There are many more case studies but I’m sure you understand the gist of it: don’t repress your emotions.
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